Lets Go running- July month

The number of people working out in Thimphu just shows how every one has realized the importance of the much needed work out to cope up with the modern day life.You start believing you are one of the modern day person who knows whats important and fitness is your priority.The mirror hits you in the face and the little pot belly peaks out and shouts mid life crises.You can blame it on your mothers good cooking or the last time you toasted to your friends long life, the belly does not take no for an answer.

The recent Body building competition in Thimphu was an inspiring event which made me want to get up and start flexing and relaxing.Of course the visual of seeing Bhutanese men in those tiny undies flexing and relaxing their muscles never ceases to amuse me.Just imagine if you were one of the contestants and you had your mother next to you cheering for you. shouting out loud ...Relax son , now flex, flex show those judges your lower thigh muscles fast.  I am not much a fan of those big bulgy guys,I would like my body to be rather lean and mean. Ranbeer kapoor has been an inspiration of what kinda body i want.

Honestly I have been pigging out the last couple of days just going from office to home watching movies and eating non stop junk.

Call it a blessing in some sort of bizarre way but I have this constant need to always keep improving myself or else low self esteem hits in.So i have this insane need to do better at all times which in turn keeps pushing me further.At times i wish i was one of those laid back kinda guys who always has a beer around says party on.So i eat, sleep and  i get anxious and low which leads to eating some more and sleeping. Not a very fulfilling feeling.


So i have decided to make this month JULY as my running month.A month dedicated to proving your commitment to oneself to prove mind over matter. To take health as a priority and taking atleast half an hour every day for your self where you get lost in your thoughts and your legs do the running.

( Try milkha paajis training mode if you dare)


If you are already have the killer six packs, good on you.if you have the family pack like me then i urge you to join me to make a commitment to go out for a run this whole month for at least half an hour. Every step you take is earning good merit because after you are done with running you wont be stressed much to shout at your husband, you wont feel the need to go out drinking with your buddies which in turn reduces the traffic problem in Thimphu.

So no blaming on the hang over you had from yesterday or the fact that its raining. You dont have enough time or you are just plain lazy .Your boss gave you a firing or that the zakar is not good.

 Lets just run.Lets run for health.lets run for the kid inside you who wants to have fun and let go. Lets run for the fighter who wants to keep at it till the last battle.lets run for the good times to come knowing you are healthy.Lets just bloody run for the next thirty days.Be it at morning wee hours breathing in the fresh air.Or late at night cause you had to work late lets go for a run. Ill see you running around Thimphu.

(This is just plain hilarious)

Remember as a kid when you would run so fast when you felt your legs would fall off running towards the swing

 Check list
Day 1 -- rain or shine ,,Tu Bhaag Milkha tick for day 1
Day 2 ,3,4 and 5 -

Rest of the days : Every Ones human

hoops dreams creamed for now

I have always had a lifelong passion with basketball , i used to admire players and always wanted to be like them . I used to go around swimming pool area and start day dreaming where my team would win and i would be popular and then soon be the king of the world . I am sure guys around Thimphu can relate to this passion. Real life does not work that way.

Soon you realize that this king of the world is being single offhandedly blocked by this 15 year old kid who looks younger than your son if you had married 2 years ago , then all this king of the world wants a cup of ice cream , no more basketball.

Basketball led men to become heroes in Thimphu.  A game played by the mighty kings. Basketball would rule over all other sports in Thimphu.

Now after a decade of playing almost 15 tournaments i am forced  to accept fact that some dreams are never meant to be. Sure i have had my own shares of trying to play my heart out and to be the best player out there but the disappointment of losing is just a tad bit more when you give it all you got and then you get thrashed 50 -10.

So here is an adios to a life long passion.I am not giving up but coming to agree with the fact that somethings are never meant to be and that there are a lot more wonderful things out there like traveling and secretly trying to rip the car tires of those guys who thrashed us in the last game .

I am always gonna play the game and enjoy it but i have out grown basketball , real life needs to be filled, bills needs to be paid.

and to those gifted athletes who work hard and inspire us to try harder in the local games ,, i hope you twist your ankle and your ligament just rips wide open.

I am going to make sure that i train my son who will be born in a couple of years to be the best athlete and make sure he whoops your sons ass and for now you can keep playing and practicing, i gotta go get my ticket to see an NBA game ..TRUE STORY
!!!!!!!11

How to deal with the 9 to 5.

If you are a regular joe and  if you work the 9 to 5 on a regular basis then i am quite sure that you have now become the automatic robotic zombie that we all turn out to be.

We all need the regular tips and advices on how to deal with the 9 to 5 once every thing gets monotonous and we all become the like dead zombies . As i am the know it all mister here are a few tips.

Please be cautioned that these are the advices of the self proclaimed master at work and does not include any medical or financial expertise.

On a starting note if you are the " too good for every one else, who knows everything and gets everything done on time, kinda best employee of the month" Just know that No body likes you, every one just laughs about you when you walk away and its people like you who invented something boring like MATH so lets get started

1) Get Your 8 hrs sleep.

You gotta be on your toes most of the time working in, so get your 8 hours sleep . Put off the Tv , Read your book on a weekend. Put away your phone and get your 8 hours sleep . i am sure you will feel great if you get your 8 hours sleep.

2) Get your job done

You are here to work people work work work.Most people i see around office have shit load of work to do and yet the first thing they do is log into face book look around the mail and just goof off.Trust me when you do your job and then you look at the time office is almost over.

3) Every one needs a coffee break/Smoking/eating Doma break

Are you being paid for staring at the computer whole day long? Are you Rajni kant??? If not.So get up go light a ciggy or make coffee .. go for walk get a doma listen to your favourite song along the way laugh if you can.;D ,Just laugh just think of the funniest shit and laugh

4) Lunch Break is lunch break

Go ahead with all the gossips with your frens if you want.Make sure you do it till 2 ocklock .Lunch break is not extra

5) Take a Nap
Do u feel sleepy after lunch.Take a nap.I am sure you will feel like a brand new person.

6) Talk to your favorite person
We all have that one person in the office whom we like a lil more than others .One way to do time traveling in office is just go ahead and talk to that person .make your day.Smile

7) Watch a movie/write a blog
SO you are done for the day you had your coffee ,you are done with your work ,you had your nap So why dont you just kick back and watch a movie ,write a blog.

8) Stare at the wall

One way to lose track of time is to stare at the wall ,just stare at the wall ,you can also dig your nose if you want to .Make sure there are no people around

9) Take leave

Done be the man who never takes a leave.If you get 10 days leave ,then take the 10 days leave i am sure u have better tings to do.

10)Work WOrk work.

On a serious note we all get paid so get to work

Your reasons for living ???

I came across this amazing video clip of the Dalai Lama where he shares about how to be happy and the usual stuff about peace love and compassion.The one thing that got me was his commitments in life.IT GAVE HIM A REASON TO BE ALIVE EVERY DAY BECAUSE HE HAD A JOB TO DO EVERY DAY AND HE HAD A REASON FOR HIS EXISTENCE.


We used to have an english proffesor in college who used to tease his students saying why are you all here ? What is your reason for existence and when the students couldnt answer he would say well even a trash can has a reason to exist.It collects trash so are you worse than a trash can.I think he wanted us to figure out what we wanted in our life.To get a reason

Coming back to his holiness speech here are his three commitments in his life time :

Firstly, on the level of a human being, His Holiness’ first commitment is the promotion of human values such as compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment and self-discipline. All human beings are the same. We all want happiness and do not want suffering. Even people who do not believe in religion recognize the importance of these human values in making their life happier. His Holiness refers to these human values as secular ethics. He remains committed to talk about the importance of these human values and share them with everyone he meets.

Secondly, on the level of a religious practitioner, His Holiness’ second commitment is the promotion of religious harmony and understanding among the world’s major religious traditions. Despite philosophical differences, all major world religions have the same potential to create good human beings. It is therefore important for all religious traditions to respect one another and recognize the value of each other’s respective traditions. As far as one truth, one religion is concerned, this is relevant on an individual level. However, for the community at large, several truths, several religions are necessary.

Thirdly, His Holiness is a Tibetan and carries the name of the ‘Dalai Lama’. Therefore, his third commitment is to work to preserve Tibet's Buddhist culture, a culture of peace and non-violence.


His commitment in his life made me think a lot and i was wondering what are my reason for living.Why am i here? We all go through a phase in our life time where we question everything us and start thinking what is the point in all of these things that we go about doing.

I remember a story of Buddha where a man going insane with all his curious thoughts ask Buddha why is the sky colour blue? and the reply that Buddha makes i think is what reason do you have to ask about the sky?Is it bothering you ?Is it harming you in any way? Does all theses sort of questions bring you happiness. Can you change the colour.If the answer is no then the only thing you have control over is your own thoughts and perceptions so control them and let go of all questions.

Very wise words when it comes to such questions cause we are all the time thinking about what, when, how and who knew the beatles had the answer when they said it outloud "Let it be"

Any ways coming back to the orginal topic .I know Buddha meant for us not to be distracted in any ways like i did .For even he had a reason to live and his was to spread buddhism to each and every individual so that every one could attend their own happiness and rest just didnt matter to him.

After a lot of twist ,turning and scratching my head.I finally figured out my reasons for existence and i am sure it connects with all of us so:

Commitment 1: To be the best version of my self and be content.We all have our own shades of grey and we go through the ups and downs and commitments like this help us get a perspective.When you have a purpose to be the best version of yourself everything else just falls into place.For example i would want to be confident,bold, happy well educated with values .So that at the end when i am old and grey (forgetting impermanence :P) i would look back and know that i did all that i could with my heart and soul , that i lived the best life that i truly deserved .To be the best of what i can be in any terms be it healthier,stronger responsible nicer everything that my heart and soul wants.

Commitment 2: I know His holiness is a living Buddha and i can only aspire to be even 1 percent of what he is but what i learned through his commitment is that he lives solely for the purpose of other beings.I know now that i cannot make everyone happy all the time .So i have set my priority To love respect,care and always be there for my girl friend.I know it may sound a little unreasonable cause as couples live in togethere and when everything becomes mundane,monotonous loving seems a little too hard.

I have not reached that stage , i hope we never reach that stage where we are married ,take each other for granted and become just mean living corpse.I am not experienced enough to know about those things and i hope i never get enoug experience.For now i beleive with everything that i have that i will always try to be a good human being for her. For she gives me a reason to breathe and smile when i go to sleep at the end of the day.

Living for others works in funny ways when other people are down you find ways to make them happy and when they are happy you cant help but feel a sense of happiness and satisfaction at the end of tha day.So make some smile today.

Commitment 3 : Close your eyes think of some one who has shown you compassion at all times,who have cared and given love, at times tough love also to make you better .My third commitment is to always respect love and do all it takes to make my parents happy.I think nothing gets more noble than that and i am sure at the end when i look back i will feel a little sense of satisfaction knowing i treated them right.As some one said happiness is only real when shared and i would to share all of my happiness with them.

I am just a young guy with all my sense of wild beliefs and funny fascinations,but if it makes me a better person and if it makes you feel a little positive i think everyelse just doesn't matter. so why are you here?what are your reasons?

Things i have learned that school dont teach

Life is a journey and as we pass by being spectators to all little things around us, in a jiffy we find out that life has in fact passed us by and those sweet old school days are just a vivid memory of us molding into different characters.If i could write myself a letter to my young self being in school i would have so much to say.Though It is because of all different events that we become who we truly are.School teaches us a lot about values, education ,being friends and generally growing up.However when you get out into the real world its a whole different ball game .The things that school don't teach us.These are my list of what i learned.I know every one has their one different things and might not agree with me but i am sure some of us have learned that :

Hard work beats Talent any day.

Remember the kid who always stood first in class,or the guy who did exceptionally well in sports.How they would always do well as if god had selected his favorite few and was blessing upon them.I am sure the topper wasn't playing police and chor with you after school or watching television after dinner like he said he was.

I  have always had a low self esteem and would always beat my self up comparing to them.I am sure the kid who stood first had spend hours reading books and studying ,the kid who who did well in sports wouldn't be good if he spend all day playing contra( video games), now would he?

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There is always a limit to how much far talent can take you but if you do not put in the hard work, its a waste of the gift you have upon you.

If you have a dream ,if you want it bad,then you gotta put everything on the line and go for it day in and out..Then you can be the next Lyonchen.


PS: Never let your self believe the teachers who tell you that you are smart; it just makes you think you will do well in exam and you manage to get an average grade


Friends come and go.

The special bond that happens as a kid school is genuine i believe.We make friends not based on any judgements but it just happens.You meet  someone and ask wanna play? and there you become friends.

The very special people who used to be the most important ones for you ,the ones whose judgement you trusted the most, the ones you always hung out with eventually fades, anyways most of them do.

You are friends and before you know it life happens.You go to different colleges , meet every now and then soon you find that you have nothing in common.Your priorities change your timings change and you lose them and that is OK .

They were placed as special moment there to touch your life for a moment and go.Only for a special few ones that teach you about real friendship most just pass by.


Don't beat yourself up too much.You are unique like every one else.

Being in school is tough. Its a place where you have thousands of students to compare with who are always on their toes being judgmental about how you walk, talk and act.At one point it feels like school is the whole world.

Those years are so hard ,no wonder all lots of young people commit suicide.Those hard moments feels like its the end of the world.

Don't beat yourself up too much.You eventually learn that all of it doesnt really matter and what makes you happy is the most important thing.

As you grow older it just doesn't matter if you don't have a branded shirt.If your lover finds you sexiest in a torn worn out shirt then that's it.
It would be just hard to walk around being a price tag, trying to keep up every time.

It just wont matter that you do not have friends at some point, you realize you are strong enough by your self.

It doesn't matter that you are not good in sports or in fact not good at anything .Celebrating the fact that you are healthy and you have food on your table is a reason enough to celebrate.

All that you ever dreamed of might never come true but just know,Sports is for fun, guitar is for singing , books are for losing yourself in them , friends are for celebrating the joy of companionship and it goes on , its in the little things you find your joy.

It doesnt matter that you have the prettiest girl in school firstly you must love yourself enough then you are bound to find some one that loves you.

At the end you find out that you tire yourself out by trying to impress people and do thingsto get a friend of be cool.

Its hard to keep up with the latest fashion and sometimes you just gotta let it go and walk around in ur bata chapal around town.Things get easier.



Your mom was always nice.

Remember the days in school where you used to think how your parents were the most stupid people and do not know anything. Those rebellious days.

I have learned how hard it can get in life.How they sacrifice their dreams for their children.
You put yourself in their shoes and find out in fact they have the biggest heart that always glow for you no matter how mean you were to them.


I want it now.

Being a kid you have all that energy and you want it all now.Well it never works that way and when you grow up you find out that you just lose yourself trying to do a million things and you don't get a single thing done.You realize that patience is a virtue and realize pacing yourself is best before you start a journey.

Habit makes a man.

Thoughts becomes action ,which in turn becomes habit and then becomes your character.

All the little habits you pick up in school tend to stick with you for most of your life.So if you think you are strong enough to smoke one cigarette a day to be cool in front of people,trust me it will be a stick that sticks with you.It would just be hard to give up

Developing good habits from childhood is important.If you are grow up being happy as a kid then you grow up to be a happy adult.
Depressed and low self esteem sticks with you for most of your life.Though it can be helped later on but it takes a lot of effort cause you are built that way.

My teachers should have taught me how to come to school early or how to talk to people rather than what southwind comes from the pi chart to the hydrogen in nuclear s law?Not saying that these aren't important it makes you know about how everything works but developing a character is as important as that.

Next Lyonchen??

It is good to have ambition or a direction in your life , but always know that things may take a side turn and you may be just a chef in lyonchens house,How ever take pleasure in it and you can at least decide on how lyonchen would be eating his next meal.

Morning people tend to more happier than night owls so get your sleep.

You are never to old to play games.

Every one grows up but  maturity level depends on the person i am talking to.

You are only as happy or as sad as you let your self be.

Life is not always fair ,not always rainbows and butterflies and not always "ha ha he he" but its worth living every second of it. Look at the little things


WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED?

101 Things you didnt know about me

I just wanted to share and let people know things about me.Not like i am a famous person or anything.We all have these little things that makes us all same in different ways .So this is my 101 :

1) I am a kid at heart.

2) I was once beaten up by 12 guys all surrounding me after i tried to help out a friend.

3) i have a tattoo that makes real deep sense to me but it seems totally ridiculous to people around.

4) I have been in true love once ,i mean i still am at the moment.


5) I know most go through it but i have suffered with depression and anxiety most of my life and still affects my every day life.I could never talk about it openly and left it untreated

6) I love old hindi songs and humm along with it every chance i get.

7) I had been nick named as Gunda once as a kid cause i was quite naughty.

8) I still have a fear of hitting any other person.More than that i have this fear that i would get hit and i would be in a panic state and be all numb to do anything about it.

9) I cry for most little thing and i get very emotional for little things like a sad movie.

10) I have tried weed,sniffing and major drinking.I have not tried eating pills cause i have a fear that i might OD.I still smoke and drink occasionally.

11) I have never felt the feeling of losing some one in life and thus take every one for granted.

12)  I have had bad self esteem my whole life and do struggle with it every day.

13) Being the youngest in siblings do leave you in the shadows and makes it hard to shine on your own.


14) I would choose love over money.


15) I play a lot of sports but not that good at it,but i do enjoy and try to play every time.

16) I used to take every game as challenge and used to take it over serioudly ending up beating myself ,i dont do anymore.


17) My dream is to get a house in Thimphu just like every one else here , most of us though.

18) I dont flirt or cheat ,i am not really good at it also but main reason i dont is i care too much for my girlfriend and cant picture how it would hurt her so i dont.

19)I do beleive in soul mate now.


20) My biggest fear i believe is Public speaking.

21) I think i would be a great dad,I meani want to be.

22) I always choose the quiet preety type over any loud bold confident beautiful one. i feel it just clicks with me.

23) I have never had a pet, I would love a dog someday i could call it mine.

24) I have never heard my family say i love you one another.I know it through the care and action we put in for each other.Though it is hard when we as a family take each other for granted.

25) I really care for my family and would anything for them but mos times its so gloomy and everyones upset over things i cant stand it.

26) I donot like my work but i make effort to do good at it and i do ok for now.

27)I once stole from a grocery shop in town  and proudly showed it to my parents at home.My mom whooped my ass so bad i never did again.

28)I wish i could win the basketball tournaments here but now am getting used to not winning it and saying its ok.

29)I have lots of friends but not a close one.I used to party all time but never had a close fren.

30) I want to take public speaking classes.

31)I want to be an artist any kind actor painter , writer , musician.

32) I want to live abroad once,I have lived in Thimphu my whole life and studied in India for 3 years . I want to live abroad as in over seas just to get over my consciousness over speaking in english.

33) I still believe my parents think of me as being useless and dumb but now i am ok with it and just live on my own terms.

34) i love romance and feel its the best part of a relationship but i am still learning all that.


35) I love the feeling of being in love.

36) I have had a sibling sibling pass away > i was a kid i dont remember much.

37) I have a tough time managing money and am broke most times.Being a government worker doesnt pay much at all.

38) I used to get late for everythingand still struggle being one time for work.

39) I once had this diarrhea problem and went ahead ahead with my business right next to the street cause i couldnt control it. I was in my 12 standard.

40) I still wonder and marvel at how girls sleep around.i still believe in the old school family values.

41) I watched the SECRET and tried it didnt really work for me but helped me a lot with positivity.

42) I meditate every now ad then .

43) I still struggle with anxiety every day.

44) I have had 3 girl friends till now.

45) Once in school , girls decided to play who is good looking in class and rate them.I was voted second in class.I didnt mind cause the first was way too preety to be a guy .It helped me boost my confidence.

46) I internally wish that my blog went like world famous and i made a living over people wanting to read it.

47) I stare at girls every time when i am driving around and feel good about myself when i see them intrested.

48) I used to struggle with sleeping and used to lay till morning getting depressed.

49) I have cut my self on the wrist and used to think about suicide all the time.

50) I lost my virginity very late and used to lie to frens making them beleive i was not.

51) I was always an average student and average in everything and i am ok with it.

52) I am in love and really hope to marry this girl

53) I really do believe she was sent for me

54)I wish i had a killer body but i eat way too much and a lil potbelly is starting now.I still cant stop eating.

55)I eat Baba and i like it .Though i have tried to stop it cause it gives me anxiety.

56) I am real introvert and prefer being inside most times and enjoy being in small groups when i am out,

57) I get major panic atttacks when i have to do presentation and i struggle with anxiety for weeks.

58) I had to suddenly change school as a kid and i belive i got lot of psychological problems cause i was the one one in a new class and i had to cope with it.I am doing dealing with it for now.

59) I really want to go to Australia to earn major massive money.

60) My next goal is build a house after that i might start relaxing.

61) I love listening to deep songs while driving.I noticed that i listened to sad songs and it made me even more depressed so now i have changed to happy tune

62) I enjoy the bitter sweet feeling of being depressed and crave for it at times.

63) At the moment  i am still in the phase of having a hairstyl like the kid of terminator ,or the young leonardo or brad pitt in meet joe black.

A letter from good feelings.

Here is the second topic from my 30 days topic list of the challenge. Issuing an apology

Dear You

I am sorry today.I am sorry for you.I hope you get this and hope it makes you feel better.

I am sorry for all the rough nights you went through.All the constant struggle you have been through. Don't let all your pain make the sparkle go away, let it shine, let it glow.
I wish life was all rainbows but we go through the dark shadows to realize what colors we need to make it worth coloring for.

I  remember the first time you got your heart broken,Man!!was it tough to let go.
All you could do was cry your heart out.
I am sorry that you got your trust broken.I am sorry you learned the hard way, but there are always better things waiting for you.Trust me i know,I have been there.All you gotta do is learn how to pick the right cup of happiness that suits your taste.The kind of ones that fill your heart with so much happiness,your heart wont even have a scar of a crack left.

The ones that makes you smile when you are lost in your thoughts,The ones that make you dream of a future together. The ones that makes u giggle all night on the phone.The ones that makes you stare deep into an evening twilight and lets you know that everything is going to be all right.

I am sorry that dream job of yours got taken by some one else.I wish i could make it happen.Sometimes dreams do get shattered ,you don't always get what you want in life .All the paintings you made as child to grow up to be painter doesn't always sell ,You do not always make a living out of things that you love.You grow up to do a boring job day in and day out. I have found a trick though, listen real careful now,here it goes.If you start liking your job It doesn't seem so bad,the ride is all worth while. I don't mean now to give up on your dreams, go ahead make that master piece, make the winning goal at your own pace.Always keep trying keep your heads up in the cloud but your foot stuck in the sand.

Life is not a race,You dont have to sing like The fray infront of every one.Just grab a guitar ,get a cup of coffee ,close your eyes  on a lazy evening and humm.I am sure things will be all right for now.

 I am sorry your lover doesn't seem so interested in you now, though you give it your best every time.The sparkle doesn't seem to be there any more.Years of togetherness has made it stale for you.You are tired of giving every day but getting nothing in return.I know how it feels i have been there with you,That night when you cried your eyes out and wanted some one to hold on to but all you felt was the coldness of the winter. Trust me i wish i could make it all good for you , I ma not sure though that every time you curse at your lover every time you nag your lover it helps make your life better.Instead of crying nagging,feeling ptitful i really wish you would do one thing for me now.
Love yourself first, whether it is the good side or the bad side of you love yourself.live on dreams ,take pride and happiness in little things.Then soon you realize that you are spreading your love.Share it.Share it like its your duty.You make it happen day in and out.For love is to let go of all self comfort and make others feel blessed to have you around .So make it happen.Give it your all give it your best ,all good things will work out all bad things since you love your self you will find better ways to love.

I am sorry that at times you dont have anything to do and at times you feel like you cant do anything done right.I am sorry you feel so low looking at yourself you cant hardly stand up tall .Dont ,my friend dont.For we all got our own roles to play in this world.Some become magicians,some politicians.You have a role to play to.In this role you donot have to impress your father,you dont have to compete with your siblings.When all around people are getting in the race to get the best job ,the best car ,your role is to watch a cloud flow by.Trust me i know its hard at times though you must work hard you must earn to make a living never forget about the little things ,The little things that make you happy.
Remember as a child when you wake up early looking forward to the day.the sound of rain on the roof top.the wind in your face,The smile of your grandparents.The laughter of little children.I hope i made you smile now.I hope you feel better now.

I am sorry i am not always there for you ,I am sorry i get lost at times But just now this moment i want you to embrace me .


Thank you
Yours forever

Good feeling